[Suiko]

Thanks for all you advise and funny answers.

No, it's show time.

If I tell you that I'm gay. No surprise with my profile.
Now, If I tell you that I love someone and I wanna get marry with that person, not for the HKID.
And that person loves girls.

But nobody can break up our spiritual love.

Appearence is nothing compared with the power of our relationship.

She is my blood, I'm her heart...

"Marriage is a big thing in the life". For you yes surely. But for me, it's just a piece of paper. Don't tell me that I have to grow up a bit. This marriage has nothing to do with responsability. Chinese culture, I know it. We plan to have children in the future. We have already traveled in other 30 different countries.

Life is so short. I would like to do all I want. So she does.
We sleep in the same bed except when she brings a gal or when I find a handsome guy. Sex is appart. She is so open for a Chinese, because she is My girl.

[GOODMAN]

Now you got me really intrigued and curious. If my interpretation of you is correct, (not sure) that you and your girl both are “ Bi “ but you said you both share spiritual love. Perhaps you can educate me because I am definitely older than you and can understand the kind of love you described. Love is definitely differently depending on one’s preference. Some people can share love with more than one lover; nonetheless, he still think that’s love. To me, true love is devotion to one and not shared by others. Love for friends are differently than love between 2 people. Many think they are in love and got married; only to find out marriage life is not a convenient life style. You sounded like a very articulate and intelligent guy; however, I am not sure you understand the concept of marriage. One thing I am certain though, I was 21 once. In retrospect, I did many stupid things at that age and many years after that. Of course, it’s your choice. Since you are open to this forum to share your plan, we thought we offer you our honest opinion. By the way, I am still confused with your sexual orientation; not that I am particularly interested.

[prashanthbk]

Marriage is not a bed of roses. Looks sweet when apart and then it is all sacrifice, understanding and support... If any one breaks the ship is in storm

[Expatriate]

Suiko, you are a very lucky guy.

I think bi-people are the most lucky ones on earth because their heart is open to love anyone.
But they are also the saddest, because sooner or later someone (either their love or society) will force them to decide against their heart.


BTW, you need to apply for a HKID when you get a working visa in HK.
So, getting a job will get you an ID.

[gohgoh]

Suiko

If you were so sure of your feelings and plans, why post asking for people's opinions. Waste of time really.

[jimbo]

Originally Posted by gohgoh

Suiko

If you were so sure of your feelings and plans, why post asking for people's opinions. Waste of time really.

Agreed with gohgoh

Do what you feel is right, Its your life and not ours, Just be honest to yourself thats all I ask.

[xiaoma2]

Suiko, so why you care about 'a piece of paper'? Your original post asked questions about HKID, immegration and a job, I guess you want to know whether you could get HKID, and stay in HK get a job..., if you marry a local girl?

[BenderBends]

this is the stupidest thing in the world.... no offense.

bi-people are greedy, don't kid yourself. choose one and stick with it, don't run around taking anything you want.

here you have a gay man marrying a lesbian women for love? lol

thats called bonding over similar lifestyles and societal struggles. Both of your parents most likely do not agree with your choice of lifestyle so you have decided to "fool" them with your cleverness.

anyone who is PRO gay rights would burn you at a stake for making your community step backwards. What happened to making a stand, showing people you are human, even if it is not the norm?

so, in conclusion, go on with what you "love-birds" want to do. Asking for our opinion on such a ridiculously stupid question and action just further degrades you lower and lower.

[GOODMAN]

Don't mean to add fuel to the fire....but I think you are young and immature. You thik you can fool yourself by denying your sexual identity by marrying a girl who also can go AC/DC. I have nohting against gay people just so long they keep their life style to themselves and not to push it upon me. But I do think and I used to work with many gay men that their life style is risky and the only thing that matters to them is fun and sex; at least the one that I knew....As far as your marriage plan is concerned, I agree with everyone...it's ridiculous and foolish.

[shirleythien]

Now we are talking, Goodman. Jimbo has the point too. Everyone has their own opinion here. Suiko, if you have chosen your path, you should not ask our opinions. You don't seems to accept it. On top of that, I am as confused as Goodman. Question, what do you really want? Paper or girl? No additional of fuel like what Goodman said, but good advise always sounds negative and provocative.