[wheaties14]

Hi! New member, first post. =)

I'm just curious to know what the attitudes towards inter-racial couples are in HK. I read a thread about ex-pats dating in HK but I didn't really get a sense about what "society" thinks, or how it treats inter-racial couples.

From my own experience it seems like there are more Western (Caucasian, that is) men with Chinese women; in my case I'm dating a HK male. I'm actually half-Chinese but in appearance and mannerisms I'm not really distinguishable from your average white Northern American woman. =)

I know that it won't change our relationship but I think it would be interesting to get a sense of what people are thinking when they see us together. And what are your opinions on the subject? And what is your feeling about how natives view the subject?

[doogle]

I guess it's as weird as you expect it to be. If you feel odd it may be difficult to consider how others won't. If you consider your relationship to be odd, in my opinion, you're kind of spelling out the theme of the relationship.

I prefer just to dispense with it. A relationship, in my opinion, isn't about other people, but about those involved. I will draw from others the strength to focus, but not to limit me.

[justjj]

Hey Guys And Girls Where Is Good Place To Meet People !

[babymommy2]

Here is my glimpse into how the older generation feels about it. I don't live in Hk, but I am married to a man who is from Hk. We live in Canada, in a large city where interratail marriage is not rare at all. I am caucasian. When we were first dating (In Canada) my husbands mother saw pictures of me, she had never met me, but she told my husband to watch out because I have big breasts (which I don't, but I guess in her opinion I do) and I would be after him all the time for sex. He had been pretty disappointed that that didn't turn out to be true. Both his parents had reservation (as did mine), but everyone seems to get along and there have been no major problems. I didn't notice anyone starring at us or anything when in hong Kong. China yes, but not HK. We went to the village where my husbands dad grew up and I felt like the first white person the children in the village had ever seen. They openly starred at me. It felt really strange, as I had never been in a situation like that before.

[carang]

i met and married my HK chinese hubby here ih HK. since the first time i met his parents, they have treated me like a daughter. we've never had much trouble with the cross-cultural thing....that is, until we had children. we have encountered a few problems with her since then, but i try to keep in mind that what she does and says is coming from a place of love, rather than out of maliciousness. it can be very trying as the ways of raising children can be VERY different.

as for how other people see us... i have noticed that people seem to look at us more in places like sham shui po than in central. it used to bother me, but after 7 years of marriage, i'm getting to the point that i don't care anymore.

can't imagine what it would be like travelling in china with hubby and our kids!?!? i think that it would be very slow going indeed.

[nicolejoy]

I married my HK born husband in Australia - he's pretty "westernised" though - he moved there when he was a child. We have our culture differences, mostly with in-laws rather than with me and him... Most of our friends over here seem to be other "Westernised Chinese" people - uni friends of my husbands, or old school friends (when he was a kid, he went to international school here) - so there's plenty of interracial dating/marriages there. I've only ever really had rude comments from one "family friend" (I didn't pour her tea at yum cha like I was meant to)...

[pommiechick]

Hey doogle!
I couldn't have said that better myself!!!! That was awesome! Good to hear theres still some grr..eat! positive attitude around!

[abcdefghi]

Originally Posted by pommiechick

Good to hear theres still some grr..eat! positive attitude around!

Well, there was ... in 2005 ...