[Lammarite]

I'm certainly not. A rich mistress maybe......

[sunniefaith]

What makes the lady think that by marrying a rich man, everything will be fine. Maybe someone should remind her of a certain lady that killed her rich husband not too long ago in HK. How naive?

[Crocodile]

That girl would be such a pain in the ass to be anywhere near. The reply was priceless.

[sylvesterjay]

How about a rich wife? After all this is the 21st century, let's let the women take care of their men, whilst we spend our days at the gym keeping buff for our money honey's. I offer my own special skills in return any takers?

[sylvesterjay]

"Pump and dump!" That's classic.

From a thread 2 yrs ago along the same lines:
http://www.geoexpat.com/forum/gold-d...ong-t4206.html

Ok, I’m trying to think of way to say this without sounding bitter, but I think no matter how I phrase it some will jump all over me and say that I am, so here goes. What is it with some women in Hong Kong, notice I said some not all - no stereotyping here, who are only interested in how much money a guy has?

I’ve had this discussion with my female friends who tell me that a guy shows them how much he treasures them buy how much money he spends on them. Huh? Are they really that shallow? There are other ways, besides material possessions, for a man to show how much he cares for his lady love. Which makes me wonder, what do these women do to show how much they like their guy?

These same women tell me that they look for a guy with money for security, a provider. Well men don’t get any security, so what’s in it for us? Whatever happened to liking someone for who they are and how well they will treat you, not the size of his wallet? How would women feel if men only dated women for the size of their boo...oops, nevermind! Now on the flip side are the women who are realistic and claim that rich guys can be arrogant pricks and are looking for a man with more substance. Amen! The same goes for me with women and the aforementioned chest size. I am so much more attracted to brains than beauty, yet the initial physical attraction still needs to be there. The point is, there is so much more to a person than the superficial.

If a woman wants a nice car, a swanky Mid-levels apartment, expensive jewelry and fabulous vacations, why can’t she go out and get them for herself? Is women’s lib dead? Are we in the 21st century or the 18th? Why do these women EXPECT men to provide these things for them? I know lots of women with successful careers making more money than I am who can provide these things, yet they expect me to buy all the time. Some even try the guilt trip with lines like, “my other guy friends never let me pay.” Well goodie for them! Horny buggers with more money than brains who are only trying to get into your pants, yet you are either too stupid or too naïve, or both, to realize this is a transaction. We men have a word for women like that, high maintenance. And I have met quite a few women here with maintenance issues; women that won’t even take the time to get to know a guy unless he spends a bundle on her first. I’ve also met lots of women that are very giving and generous in many ways, so don’t accuse me of being jaded or lumping all women into the same category.

I think that’s what befuddles so many men these days is women want to be treated like equals, but still want men to treat them like princesses and pay for everything. Make your choice, which way do you want it?

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all about the wine, roses, romance and spoiling a woman. What chaps my behind is the expectation that it’s my solemn duty to constantly provide dinner at expensive restaurants et cetera. Relationships are supposed to be give and take, and I don’t mean that men give and women take. There should be some reciprocal giving involved here. Yet I get accused of being cheap! Excuse me? Just because I am careful with my money and saving for my future does not make me cheap, because I think a woman should chip in for dinner and a movie now and then. I’ve been unemployed before and it’s important to me to make sure I have money saved for a rainy day; more important to me than ensuring my dates romantic material expectations. I find it rather ironic that a woman who won’t spend a dime on a man has the nerve to call him cheap.

Which brings me to my conclusion, if these women are only looking for a guy to spend his money on them and the men are only obliging to get sex, what does that make these women? That’s right, you guessed it, prostitutes! They call me cheap, I call them shallow. Any thoughts? Let the debate begin.

[climber07]

Dude....I'm rarely the one to say this.....but you need to take a deep breath and relax....its going to be OK....Really.

First of all you are using some very large generalizations and that must be noted. Not all women are after $$$ and not all men are after large b... ) Here is the way it breaks-down:

Taking away the cultural differences and economics out of the equation, the efficient markets theory tells us that basically you are going to end up with a mate of similar physical attractiveness as you. So if you're butt ugly......................................such is life.

However, we live in a world with different cultures and as you obviously noticed from the posts above sometimes of extremely materialistic mind frames. Thus, in order to obtain the inefficiency in the market (i.e. get a hot husband/wife) there must be some sort of a trade-off. One only needs a quick day-trip to Tokyo or the "Viagra Triangle" (i.e. Rush Street) in Chicago to realize that inefficient markets are alive and well. In Tokyo, we see a geek/nerd/dork/dweeb, who couldn't get a date to his high school dance (let alone get laid), walking around with a model type Japanese girl on his arm. Most people do a double-take when they see such a pair walk by. What's interesting however, is that Money is not necessarily the key ingredient here....One only has to look briefly at the misogynistic Japanese culture to see why local attractive females are often drawn to Gaijin (i.e. Japanese version of Gweilo). The Chicago Cougar / Trixie culture is obviously materialistically driven and is very transparent (from the cars which drive up to the restaurants).

This is where we come to a point of marriage. The OP (on craigslist) was surprised that she constantly saw these "average looking" women married to the very well off men and she couldn't understand why that was.... The reason for that is probably that the marriage occurred out of love and likely long before these men were successful. Thus, they bought low and were reaping the rewards of the appreciation. However, from an unmarried wealthy older man perspective, as the OP mentioned in the reply, what is the motivation for buying (i.e. marrying) a depreciating asset? NONE. The money hungry women who are after older wealthy men will rarely see a ring, because at that point they really become nothing more than a very expensive prostitute and typically the price of marriage is just too high...... RENT / LEASE will always win out. (Or a pre-nup will be signed). It is thus more likely of two individuals of similar financial stability to come together at an older age (Unless they don't have descendants to worry about and are just looking to have some fun blowing away their savings).

In Conclusion, the relationships built on any one factor (i.e. money, looks, etc.) are not really "relationships" but rather exchanges of services, because they imply that factor dependence (meaning if money runs out or looks go away, the relationship is over). The key to happiness is to try to find someone to whom you're attracted on multiple levels, so if one or two of those things "go away".......there is still something there. Just my two cents

[Max]

Climber, dude....the OP was only putting up what he thought was a funny post on Craigslist.....

[KnowItAll]

In all honesty, the email on Craigslist was probably a scam to rope in some gullible rich guys into parting with their $s.

Climber07 : the one above .. was something a Geoexpat had posted a few years ago .. not Sylvester

[climber07]

Originally Posted by KnowItAll

In all honesty, the email on Craigslist was probably a scam to rope in some gullible rich guys into parting with their .

Climber07 : the one above .. was something a Geoexpat had posted a few years ago .. not Sylvester

HAHA....MY Bad

[kohana]

Interesting argument. Maybe it's just kind of advertisement/survey on Craigslist.