| I think it really boils down to where you were raised, if you were both raised in the west, regardless of your ethnicity, a lot of common ground will exist, making the relationship less prone to cultural indigestion.
My wife is also a HK local, educated in Australia and who worked in Italy and the UAE for a total of 14 years abroad, not so local in her approach or understanding of things. lol. As a couple we tend to follow a singular thinking.
As to family interactivity, I enjoy being an accepted member of my wifes family, and have never had a cross word or a situation where culture ever raised an eye brow with any of us.
I_Steyne, as to your role reversal of the OP, I doubt that would have any difference to the outcome.
Most mixed couples that I know in HK, all of them involve a HK local, all of them were educated externally of HK, or spent a great deal of time abroad... Coincidence ?
If you ask my wife what she thinks of HK locally raised men however, she has a very low opinion of them, they have a god/mummies boy complex, and just plain emotionally immature.
My missus, loves helping me work on our car when I service it, passing my spanners and what not while I am underneath, knowing that a HK guy just wouldnt be happy about getting his hands dirty, impractical at fixing things or building something, like re tiling a kitchen floor etc. HK local guy just wouldnt have the faintest idea.
Key thing with any relationship, regardless of the racial/cultural combination that applies to successful couples, "couples that play together, stay together "
Couples where the male tends to spend a lot of time at KTV bars or pubs with the lads most nights of the week, generally fail down the track. Just something I have observed in Hong Kong, even with ( some ) British married men here, who tend to like getting on the piss with their mates a bit too often, leaving the wife at home like a hermit.
I think in a nutshell its a matter of previous family upbringing and your own interpretation of what marriage and family mean to you.
Interesting topic that I am sure will have a fair amount of debate.  |